Saturday, September 24, 2011

Him n Her

Today I'm doing the same activity that i used to do while FB-ing...which is STALKING!!! wahahahaha.... I know its kinda wrong, but looking at the bright side, i could get some of recent news from friends that I haven't contacted since long time ago... And if u happen to befriend someone, u could get their info, even their daily routine! (so beware FBians, u wont want ur secret found out by a freak like me....hehehehe)


What happened was, when I was stalking, suddenly it crossed my mind to stalk someone... Someone that I removed from my frenlist a few months ago.. well, there's something happened between us, so I choosed to remove him in order for me to move on... But, now I'm curiosed again to see his newest updates, so I browse his name thru the search and 'Click' ! There u go! A new pic, with a gurl. (dunno if thats his gf though) Surprisingly, when i saw his profile, I didn't feel the pain that i experienced before. And even more, i see that he already becomes frens again with his ex... Even though sometimes u cant believe everything in FB, but I feel glad though... Maybe he's already changed and started to take the first step to move on, or maybe he still have hidden feelings towards her, I don't know, but still...It's good to see he's coming out from hiding (like the turtle hiding it's head in it's shell)..  


I know its not easy to forget something that hurts us badly. Even during these months, I struggled everyday to forgive and forget. Not forget to mention all the tears, pain that I go thru. I've learned my lesson the hard way. I should never follow my emotions while conducting any decision. One decision today could decide ur tomorow


"Just as good decisions can lead to success, bad ones can ultimately lead to defeat. - Linda Dougherty"

But not all experiences are bad. Some are good and it teaches me how to LISTEN, how to learn a new way to love others, which requires not only giving, but also sacrifies... and TRUE LOVE does teach me how to become a better person. 


Maybe someday I will be add him as a fren in FB again....and when that happens, I will apologise to him properly... =)

Wednesday, September 21, 2011

Love or infatuation?

"Is it love you're feeling or just an infatuation?"



"Infatuation is instant desire - one set of glands calling to another. Love is friendship that has caught fire. It takes root and grows, one day at a time.

Infatuation is marked by a feeling of insecurity. You are excited and eager but not genuinely happy. There are nagging doubts, unanswered questions, little bits and pieces about your beloved that you would just as soon not examine to closely. It might spoil the dream.

Love is the quiet understanding and mature acceptance of imperfection. It is real. It gives you strength and grows beyond you - to bolster your beloved. You are warmed by his presence, even when he is away. Miles do not separate you. You have so many wonderful little films in your head that you keep replaying. But near or far, you know he is yours and you can wait.

Infatuation says, "We must get married right away. I can't risk losing him." Love says, "Be patient. Don't panic. Plan your future with confidence."

Infatuation has an element of sexual excitement. Whenever you are together you hope it will end in intimacy. Love is not based on sex. It is the maturation of friendship that makes sex so much sweeter. You must be friends before you can be lovers.

Infatuation lacks confidence. When he's away, you wonder if he is cheating. Sometimes you check.

Love means trust. You are calm, secure and unthreatened. He feels your trust, and it makes him even more trustworthy.

Infatuation might lead you to do things you will regret, but love never steers you in the wrong direction.

Love is elevating. It lifts you up. It makes you look up. It makes you think up. It makes you a better person than you were before." 



taken from : http://www.artofloving.com/relationships/5loveinfatuation.htm


Just want to share this... ^^